Father Wounds to Father's Love:

Published on 14 August 2025 at 02:58

From Father Wounds to the Father’s Love

Have you ever struggled to call God ‘Father’ because of the wounds left by your earthly one?

I want to share something deeply personal, a journey that took me from brokenness to healing, and from pain to purpose. I truly believe that there is someone out there who needs to know this truth: You are not alone, and God can heal even the deepest father wounds.

A Childhood Without Safety

As a little girl, home wasn't a haven. It was a place where words and hands hurt. My parents were not believers at the time, and I experienced both verbal and physical abuse. I had no real connection with my father and over time, hatred began to take root in my heart. Even after coming to know Jesus, the damage was there, quiet and buried, but very real.

“How could I trust a Heavenly Father, when my experience with fatherhood left me feeling unwanted, unheard, and unsafe?”

When God Stepped In

It wasn't until my parents gave their lives to Christ, around my middle school years, that a shift started to happen. But even then, my heart still needed healing.

I carried, what I now call, ‘father wounds’, deep disappointments, unmet needs, and years of rejection. All of this made it nearly impossible for me to truly receive the love of God. Through all these feelings, God never gave up on me. (His Word tells me that He will never leave me, nor forsake me - see Deuteronomy 31:6)

He began to show me what a true Father's love looks like patient, gentle, present, and healing.

Choosing Forgiveness

One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a feeling, It’s a decision.

“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the LORD forgave you.” —Colossians 3:13

Forgiving those who hurt me, even my own father, was not easy. But God walked me through a three-step journe

Forgive them – not because they deserve it, but because I deserve peace

Pray for them – not out of obligation, but so that I could be free

Bless them – because that’s what Jesus does

"Love your enemies. Bless those who curse you. Do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you." –Matthew 5:44

I had to include my family. I had to choose to release bitterness, to unclench the fists of my heart, and let God fill me with grace.

Stepping Into My Identity

Once I opened my heart to His healing, I discovered something beautiful “I am not what happened to me. I am who God says I am.” (see Ephesians 1:3-8)

"Be renewed in the spirit of your mind." – Ephesians 4:23 I began to see myself not as the wounded little girl, but as a beloved daughter of the Most High God.

"The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children." –Romans 8:16

Through tears, prayer, Scripture, and time, I began to receive the love of my Heavenly Father and now, I pour that same love out to others who need it.

If you’re reading this and you know you carry father wounds, please know this, you are not alone and you are not forgotten. You are not too broken. You can forgive, you can heal, and you can walk in peace, not because the people who hurt you deserve it, but because you deserve peace.